Wow! 12 weeks pregnant and blogging for LGBT families…my family! It’s crazy and this time last year, I wouldn’t have dared imagine it. Nor would I have imagined that in the last 12 months so much law reform could have been possible. After living in the dark ages for far too long, our State and our Country are finally taking some progressive steps forward to protect our families and grant us the rights that everyone else takes for granted.
12 months ago, I was speaking to my lawyer friends about expensive and non legally binding donor and parenting agreements and parenting orders. Today, with the (expected) advent of both mothers automatic inclusion on the birth certificate I’m more worried about our kids surname and our surnames. 12 months ago I felt I had no real choice but to conceive DIY style with a known donor but by the end of the year, I will have every option a partnered heterosexual woman has and can access assisted conception services if I so desire/need.
By the time Squeak is 6 months old, the feds will legally recognise his/her mothers 8 year relationship too. They still won’t let us get married but at least we won’t be forced to tick single on legal documents any longer. We will benefit from joint tax returns and superannuation (pension/retirement) benefits too. As well we should.
We still have a long way to go though and I couldn’t do justice to this blog entry without a shout out to the LGBT folk who don’t dare dream of their own children or creating their own families. In too many places, too many queers still fear for their lives in and out of the closet and as we celebrate our joys, our sadnesses and our bumpy road to forming family, let’s not forget those who aren’t afforded the same privileges as us fortunate few.